Looks like your coach is trying to force you into a specific style of play (or more likely to train in a specific style of play), where you take the ball right off the bounce. This is pretty understandable as it is a style that's getting increasingly popular today, and quite possibly going to be more prevalent in the future.
That said, just ask him directly if that's what he is going for, just forcing someone to train a certain way, without telling them what exactly they are trying to improve is, in my opinion, not a productive way to train.
If that is indeed what he is going for, then that makes a lot of sense. A lot of your complaints about what people do to you, are exactly things you would need to improve to play that style of game. Better footwork, better anticipation/control of angles close to the tables rather than moving back to give yourself time. Counterlooping off the bounce, instead of near the top of the bounce. Lobbing should just not be a regular part of your game, it's a shot of last resort.
Many of these things are unproductive in the frame of thinking involved in the close to the table aggressive game. You need to have the footwork to reach those serves. Counterlooping close to the table, off the bounce is harder than counterlooping a step back, near the top of bounce, but this gives your opponent less time in the rally also, and makes it harder for them to counterloop with you. Lobbing is generally just unproductive, sometimes you are in a bad position in a rally, and you lob to stay in the point, you rarely win points from a position of lobbing in a rally. Staying aggressive (even with blocks), and just forfeiting points where you are forced to lob is not a big loss.